What's the True Cost of a Broken Heart for Sensitive People with Purpose?
Hey fam,
Welcome to another beautiful day and a very important message. Y'all, I’m keepin’ it so real with this one. Stay with me, share this with every friend you know who struggles with a broken heart of any kind and know, I’m here with you.
Let’s dive in!
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This episode speaks about the very real nature of broken things, specifically your heart, and how that significantly impacts sensitive individuals with a purpose.
If you identify as a creative being, a highly sensitive person, an empath, or someone who simply feels things deeply, and you know you’re here to do great things… this episode is for you.
We live in a society that first and foremost values one’s brain.
Dominance, intelligence at the expense of wisdom, and a detachment from how we feel within our bodies are the M.O.
To value a broken heart would mean we’d first value the subject matter at hand: your heart.
A broken heart is a wound, a warrior’s badge that like invisible illness, is deeply felt and widely unseen. Except that it is seen in unsuspecting ways.
It’s seen in the outcomes, ideologies, and ways in which we move through our lives.
Unrequited heartbreak, the scar tissue that builds between a life built and the possibility of more, bleeds all over everything in your life.
Where’s the bandaid?
Where’s the hope?
Where’s the space to admit just how deeply and profoundly heartbreak in the name of love, justified, true or not, impacts us?
Where’s the acknowledgment, reverence, and value placed on both the instrument that’s broken and the necessary happenings for it to occur?
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Japan has a proper diagnosis for death by heartbreak.
It’s called Takotsubo Cardiomyopathy, also known as Broken Heart Syndrome.
Broken hearts are saved as the subjects of romantic comedies, dramas, tragedies, tabloids gossip, and reality T.V. shows.
When we’re not unconsciously learning from what we watch, we’re actively searching for broken heart remedies from friends, family, or online.
We seek out ten steps to heal from a breakup or seven ways to get over an ex. Each maintains a generally regurgitated or shallow perception of the magnanimity of what’s actually broken and in-kind, how much it impacts our abilities as people with purpose to lead, to teach, to guide, and to instigate change.
If I told someone my brain was broken, people would respond with shock or empathy. “Wow,” they might say.
But ask someone to understand what it feels like to truly love and have the very instrument by which— symbolically or otherwise—the fabric of our very existence and humanity is created, to have this injured, and we as a culture are at a true loss for words, empathy or even understanding.
We as a society are ill-prepared to deal with broken hearts.
Such immaturity equally negates the emphasis thus placed on prevention from heartbreak to occur. This sets us up to be unnecessarily vulnerable.
And herein lays the problem for creatives and sensitive people with a higher purpose.
Heartbreak is valid and so is its impact.
It can devastate a sensitive person’s ability to thrive let alone live.
We understand visible signs of despair such as tears. But what about the deeper gashes that take place? The cracks so deep that we lack remedies to repair them? And yet, we bear the repercussions of these injuries.
Phantom injury that escapes the invisible eye physically does not equate to phantom impact.
Broken hearts are akin to a full emotional body cast.
What is lost in such instances goes far beyond the physical presence, idea, or place that you loved.
It refers to a significant loss or shift in identity. Meaning, you may not know who you are anymore.
And if that heartbreak involves betrayal, where someone lied to you, it forces into question your abilities as an individual thus casting severe doubt into one’s mind.
Or worse yet, when you lie to yourself. Such betrayal is equally devastating.
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The physical repercussions of heartbreak for sensitive people are just as relevant, if not at times dire, as the emotional feelings.
For people with trauma, PTSD for example and heightened sensitivity, depression, panic attacks, racing thoughts, and an inability to function temporarily in society can manifest.
Love is the greatest force on the planet. As sensitive leaders, we are meant to lead with our hearts. This responsibility however to lead from such a place equally mandates a fierce form of protection to prevent unnecessary calamities from striking.
How many times have you endured the loss of a relationship you knew wasn’t good for you?
How long did it take you to move on, assuming you did?
And what happened to your body, your spirit, and your trust as a result?
If heartbreak can kill in Japan, it can kill anywhere. And for those of us who lead with our hearts, we run a significant risk when we naively expose our most vital if not undermined asset: our heart.
Love is not a romantic comedy nor is heartbreak trivial.
Heartbreak is an unsavory repercussion of your ability to open yourself up to the world, to another, and say I see you. I’m here with you. I’m standing by you. It’s an emotional opening that exceeds our own human understanding.
Love is the human gift of intimacy from the stars, spirit and whomever you place your faith in. Both the vehicle and the cargo are to be honored.
When this trust is broken, when this feeling is vanquished, especially from betrayal, this creates a deep wound in our body, our emotional body, and our spirit. This weighs on the body.
I’m here to validate both the existence and the value of the heart and what heartbreak thus signifies.
I’m here to help you realize that heartbreak is a casualty when not experienced under self-respecting conditions.
Learn more about this important theme in this week’s episode, here.
What do I mean by that?
Until you understand the value of what you have and who you are...
Until you learn to say no...
Until you learn that you don’t need lists to identify people, more so you need to understand that:
You’re here for a purpose.
You’re worth your own healing, full and free life and expression
You have a life to live.
And that to risk love on people, places, and things that would first hurt you before they ever see or love you, who know love by name and not by deed. Mija, this is irresponsible. Because it inherently invites cancer of the heart into your cells in the form of depression, physical sadness, and departure.
Before you connect.
Before you love, blindly.
Before you unconditionally trust.
Remember all that you are and all that you are here for.
This isn’t a message about healing your heart or closing yourself off from the world.
It’s a message about living your life, honoring your purpose, and recognizing that your greatest gift can also be your greatest casualty and vulnerability.
Protect what is yours.
Not with hardened walls but with power.
Dive into today’s episode and share this with everyone you know who has ever suffered from heartache.
You have a purpose.
You can’t do your work in the world and be who you truly are if you are constantly picking up the pieces of other people’s neglect.
Let that sink in.
Loving you always,
Lalita
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