So You've Lost All of Your Friends? Is This the Price of Success? (Ep. 23)

Hey fam,

So we’re back with another episode of Lila! The good just keeps getting better! Am I right? We’re keeping it real this week and addressing the fear of losing your friends and family on the way to success. Let’s dive in!

It’s that fear that penetrates our very humanity. This thought of being alone, of standing at the finish line, our ride or dies absent and wondering, is it worth it?

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Fear of being alone and outgrowing my peers kept me in a state of turmoil and stagnancy for decades. It looked like I was growing on the outside, and I was. But not in the areas of my dreams.

I deeply feared owning my own voice, standing in my power, and really unleashing this fire and passion with me as they related to my deepest dreams. Because I feared being abandoned, alone and if I’m really honest, letting go of the hardwon friends and family I’d curated.

Deep down I knew that if I really, truly stepped into my power, my inner and outer lanes, that my life would change drastically. Specifically, my relationships.

Why was such a drastic change necessary?

Because my relationships were built on a false self. I didn’t know who I was, what I wanted and most of all, I deeply distrusted myself. How could anyone truly build a relationship with me when I lacked the very thing I sought to create with others?

All things change; this is simply the nature of life. The degree to which these changes occurred was a reflection of how much change I was invited to undergo to make my way home, which is always on the inside. Today I continue to learn that change can be sweet, loving, supportive and unifying.

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If you fear being alone... fear that if you pursue your dreams, you’ll leave those you love behind, that’s a valid feeling.

There are countless examples where we grow in and out of the lives of those we love. There are also many more examples of how our journeys weave together in the most unexpected way.

Regardless of where your personal roadmap of the soul, in the form of dreams, takes you, what I believe is most important is the ability to be true to that present moment voice that whispers to you in tones of peace and without words.

You cannot control others. And your dreams are waiting! You’re waiting! And to hold off on your life for a fear that cannot possibly be solved now because in current form it’s only a thought, a negative imaginative atrocity that’s tormenting you, this is a waste of life.

You’re meant to live. You have permission to live. Admitting that this fear exists in you, big or small, is a strong step in realizing what you’re here to do (and then enacting the bravery to do it).

Thank you for being part of this creative family of sensitive dreamers and doers with a big purpose! Share this episode with your creative peers and subscribe to our show on iTunes!

Big hugs,

Lalita

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