The space between the rocks

A friend once told me that I don't know how to navigate the terrain of adversity, that I can't see around the problems as they come flying at me. I instead am franticallymesmerized by them. I become blinded to the point that I cannot see the path that takes me out of the woods. Thus, I either freeze before the problem strikes or run into it head on, despite having seen it from miles away.

An avid mountain biker, he explained to me that as he would make his way down the side of a mountain on two wheels (sounds safe) he would consistently meet large boulders head on, the kind that literally knocked him on his ass. It was after a great number of serious falls that he said screw it; he didn't want to mountain bike again. I mean, why would he? Why would he literally risk his life?

It was then that his friend gave him a piece of advice that got him back on the bike and changed my life, "Rather than seeing the rock in front of you, learn to see the spaces or paths that exist around each of them. You'll hit a lot less rocks that way…"

It's tempting for business people to take the rocks in our lives personally:

The boss that won'd approve this proposal.

The investor that doesn't understand our vision and denies us funding.

The partner that wants to reshape our initial plan.

They are all rocks that if we don't understand how to navigate early on, will either knock us on our asses or render us incapable of playing either by choice or unforseen injury.