"I don't make the rules..."

You're right. There are some laws in life that are pretty consistent and uncontrollable.. For example,

Overnight successes rarely ever achieve their exito in a single day. It's generally a process until they break through...

The MTA buses in NYC will probably be late...

Regardless of the girl, it probably matters to her if you buy her something on Valentine's day. She knows Hallmark invented it, but it matters...

Smoking will probably kill you or at least make you uglier before you die...

You can't make someone do something for the long-haul. It's not scalable (free-will) ...

But for so many other 'rules' or customs, you do have a choice.

When will you go to bed at night?

What job will you choose?

Which man/woman will you marry?

How many kids will you have?

What business will you start?

What venture will you end?

What new city will you move to?

The day you will stop doing drugs...

They day you will leave your abusive relationship...

The day you will stop accepting the racist behavior of your co-workers...

We tell ourselves we don't have control. And while there are many, many things we cannot govern, it's where we do have control that matters. That is what allows us to shape the world we live in...

But that is the very authority we ignore, we hand over to someone else, we paint over with a blanket statement of,

"I don't make the rules, I just enforce/abide by them."

You have far more control than you think.