Let the man talk: Kevin Spacey on Success

What I've realized over these last few months in particular, in a way that I can say I vividly taste, is that whatever your "it" factor is--  a new job, that girl you've wanted to date for as long as you can remember, the business you're trying to get off the ground -- it is all about your mentality. And I know that you hear this a lot, and I'm certainly not the first person to say it, especially for those of you who have had success coaches or have followed The Secret or anything like that.

"Think positive, what you think you can achieve, "

...and the list goes on.

But what I've come to realize down to the depths of my bones is that whatever and however you define success or as the pinnacle of your existence,

"If I could do THAT, it would make all the difference...",

it begins from within.

I was going to write about email marketing today;  email marketing is a tool to propel your business efforts. But the thing is that you won't do email marketing in the way that you should unless you know why you're doing it. And I'm not talking about,

"Oh, by having constant contact with your client base, you are more likely to drive sales. Duh, that's an easy one Lauryn; give me something harder to answer next time."

I mean why the $#%# are you here?

  • Why are you doing what you're doing, right this very second?
  • Why am I writing this blog?
  • Why do you get up at 6 AM everyday to go to work?
  • What drives what you do?

I mentally understood this concept for a long time, but to mentally understand anything is quite superficial in comparison to embodying it, to the point that it becomes a part of you.

The mental part is the hardest part. Getting over the mental garbage that persistently places itself between you and your dreams is a challenge.

People envision success to be the top. They envision it being the end result or the big picture I should say.

Reality check-- Success is a result of all the grunt work and the battle with yourself. Success is the accumulation of all of the minute, detailed stuff that you wouldn't necessarily think leads up to the big stuff later on. I haven't hit my big yet, but I imagine that it won't seem as big once I get there. I'll most certainly have another BIG waiting for me.

And I don't always think it's a matter of a massive  BIG. It's a path you have to walk.

And to be truly influential and remarkable, you have to be ready, willing and empowered to walk it.

And you have to own it. In the movie Save the Last Dance there is a quote that goes,

"Don't be here just to be here."

You have to know why you're doing what you're doing. When I interned at the American Embassy in Rome, I knew why I was doing what I was doing: it was because I wanted to find out what I wanted to do! Even that is reason enough. At least you get it.

The inspiration for this post has come from the video I am going to share with you below. He seems to say it a  little bit better than I can. Enjoy :)