Every community has their judgements

When I was in real estate, it was cool to have ugly websites, big lists and to be scrappy and even off color. When I was at the American Embassy in Rome, it was standard to look like you were doing a lot (and granted, some were but most became skilled at simply looking over worked and stressed) and not ask a lot of questions because questions implied uncertainty and unprofessionalism; everyone should know what they're doing even if they've never been taught.

And when I came to the start up world, it was sexy to be a bootstrapping tech company, or even sexier yet to get wildly funded. If you weren't funded, struggling (e.g. bootstrapped) or in tech, then you aren't a "real" entrepreneur. Soft skills like sales, marketing and even BD aren't quite as valuable.

And gosh, marketing? At a start-up?


I left the first two industries because those worlds weren't as receptive to my gifts, interests or messages and mainly because I hated how I felt when doing them. My urgent messages weren't being shared in a way that felt right.

But despite my "misplacedness" as a soft-skilled, vision driven teacher type in a tech oriented space , I stay.

Every industry will have it's stereotypes, the aspects you flat out disagree with and inherently the things you want to change. But At some point you have to be willing to be the. outsider with vision, roll up your sleeves and get to work.

And be vocal about the injustices, hypocrisy and misguidedness you see.

Because no matter where you go, there will. be an existing communal formula in place to facilitate your invisiblenrss and conformity. The signals are every where.

For you, however, you need to ask yourself if you can stand the heat, if you even like the kitchen and when given the chance to cook, will you have had done the prep work necessary to whip up something marvelous?